First Kisses

First kisses fascinate me.

I’ll admit up front that I’m a romantic. I cry at sappy movies and will reread sections of novels when the two favorite characters (because the author wrote them that way) finally kiss for the first time. I love flirty dialogue and all of those “almost” moments that keep me baited. For me, UST—unsatisfied sexual tension—for ten chapters often trumps the first romp in the sack. Why? Because I sometimes miss that one aspect of being single.

Don’t get me wrong. I’ve been married for nearly twenty years to a man who still knows how to sweep me off my feet. What I’m talking about is that butterflies-in-your-stomach unknown that you feel when you’re hoping that first kiss, that first “I like you enough to try this” moment, will happen. For those of us in a long-term relationship, we may have already experienced the last first kiss we’ll ever have.

That’s why I write flirty romance. I readily ‘fess up that I live vicariously through my (younger and thinner) characters who are always conveniently single when the story begins. The heroes in their lives have many of the qualities of my husband—a nice mix of honesty, intelligence, good looks, and quirky humor—but they’re also (sorry, hon) nearly superhuman in their perfection. Each one has flaws that are either endearing or will magically disappear once my heroine, his soul mate, comes along. Love will conquer all, and the couple will live happily ever after, guaranteed, because, like I said, I’m a romantic.

But what of that first kiss? It’s often the pivotal moment in the lighter (PG-13) romances. I like story lines where that first kiss is just intense enough get the point across; no more, no less. I was watching my favorite episode of The Office the other night. It’s the one where, after lots of UST between the loveable Jim and an engaged Pam, he confronts her in the office parking lot one night and finally tells her he’s in love with her. When she doesn’t return the sentiment, a heart-breaking single tear rolls down his face. “I just wanted you to know,” he tells her as he swipes the tear away. But then, inside the building, Pam has called her mother, and you realize she’s admitting she’s confused by the confession of her “best friend”—who has followed her into the office. It’s just the two of them in a dimly lit room. Pam hangs up the phone, and Jim immediately swoops in and kisses her. No words, no hesitation. He has to have that first kiss, even if it’ll also be the last.

Ahhh…I melt at scenes like that.

Getting that first kiss is like diving into a pool you’ve never been in. You’re literally taking the plunge (well, not that plunge…yet), and you won’t know until you’re in the water whether it was a good decision or not. You won’t know if the water is warm and inviting or ice cold. You don’t know if the person you dove into the water for is right there waiting for you, or if that person and some important part of your bathing suit are suddenly nowhere to be found.

I like to think all first kisses are worth it. They generally let you know whether or not a second kiss is imminent. How about you? Care to share your best first kiss experience? (And don’t worry, I’m planning another blog post where we can share our worst experiences too.)

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8 Responses to First Kisses

  1. Aw, I LOVE that scene from The Office. Such great chemistry between them, and I think it made me cry. I agree that the build-up to the first kiss is so fun and intriguing to watch. The UST can kill me!

    • The UST was vital to the audience cheering for that kiss to finally happen on that show. Now why Dwight or Andy had a thing for Angela is totally beyond me…but that’ll be covered in another blog yet to come.

  2. I want to just say, Awww. Such a great post and very true, a lot hangs on that first kiss, both in real life and fiction.

  3. Jami Burkhert

    Ahhh…my best first kiss…

    My best would have to be my FIRST actual kiss. I was 14 (almost 15) and my mother let me go to a New Year’s party that was being held at a senior’s house outside of town. It was fun…dancing, talking and such…however my coach was turning into a pumpkin at 12:30. I was able to stay for the count down, in which NO ONE kissed me at midnight. The boy I had a crush on was a senior and with his friends there, I guess he didn’t want to associate in that way with a freshman. At 1215 I went about trying to find a ride home. The senior boy that I liked said that his friend could take me home. Little did I know that my crush was going to come too and his friend’s car was only a 2 seater. I sat on the lap of my crush and just before we reached the road to my house, he gently grabbed my face, kissed me, and said, “Happy New Year.” Sweetest moment ever!!


    • Another case of the guy knowing he had to have that kiss. Men should be aware of how powerful that is to women! (My next blog post will address this further, by the way.) Thanks for sharing, Jami!

  4. First kisses are the BEST! I also love it when the UST has built up—but not for too long. There’s a fine line between temptation and frustration.

    I’ve got a fun memory of a first and only kiss with a guy in college (NO his name wasn’t Dave. ;P). We had some UST going for a while, timing was always off though, and he was shy, but one night while out at the same crowded bar we passed each other, and I don’t know what overcame him (tequila maybe?) but he grabbed me and planted the longest, hottest kiss on me right in front of everyone. I don’t even know what happened right after – I stood there dazed for a bit and then he was gone. When he worked up the nerve to call a couple weeks later I was out w/ my boyfriend whom I’d just gotten back together with…and later married. So no more first kisses for me either. 🙁 Thus the romance writing. 🙂

    • And so that guy had a “Jim fromThe Office” moment — he had to have that one kiss. Lucky you! Thanks for sharing!

  5. Aw! I loved that scene with Jim and Pam! Great topic for a blog entry.

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